If I have a good voice, I’d sing my heart out and fill this world with music.

If I could dance, I’d take every chance to strut and show them what I got.

If I could draw, I’ll paint many pictures for people to appreciate.

If I’m an athlete, I’ll win me as much medals as my abilities will allow me.

If I could do the math, I’d use that talent too, to solve the complexities of this world.

All I have are words to describe what the world is saying… or not saying.
If I could use this little talent to inspire the world to use their gift to the hilt to make this a better world…

Well, here it is.


The Hula hoops of Our Lives

I just saw a girl very effectively twirl three hula hoops around her waist. I thought she must have been bored with one, so she tried two, and then wondered if she can do three, and then she did. I also wondered how long it took her to keep three hulas up. She must have tried and failed several times until she got it. It’s fantastic what people can do if they know what they are good at and then explore how far they can go with it.

We must all have our own version of this girl’s hula hoop. I mean, we cannot be good at nothing. What is yours and how far have you gone with it? If you can sing, have you at least tried to get better at it so you can take a shot at stardom? If you think you are creative, have you exploited that creativity and let it take you as far as possible?

Don’t set your limits, push it.

What is Your Saw?

Stephen Covey said sharpen your saw.

It’s a very powerful advice that very many people know but not as many heed.

The saw of course is a metaphor for one’s abilities. sharpening it is improving it. You can’t do it if you are not sure what your abilities are. You see, this is why so many people can’t do it.

Sharpening your skills come easy if you know what it is. The bigger challenge really is discovering what it is and how it works.

So, find  your saw and then sharpen it regularly. Invest in self discovery.  Right about now is the best time to start if you haven’t started yet.

Yes, now… Don’t argue.

The Bus Passenger’s Dilemma

Passengers have it easy. They can sit back and choose whether to enjoy or complain about the ride. They don’t have to negotiate through the traffic, decide which lane to take, take an alternate route, speed up and or slowdown. There’s a price to pay though, for letting others take control of the trip for you. They dictate the pace of the journey. You cannot get to your destination faster than how fast the driver is willing to drive. You are at the mercy of the quality of that driver’s driving skills. You can complain and then maybe get off the bus if you don’t like the experience but you cannot take control of the wheel.

In life, you can choose to have it easy and depend on others to take you where you want to be. You can choose to be thankful for what you are getting or complain about the driver’s seeming disregard for what you want. But then, you can choose to take the driver’s seat of your life. Run it as fast or slow as you want to. You can go straight to where you want to be or take all the detours you see along the way. Passengers to your own bus can only complain or get off if they don’t like the ride. It’s your bus. When you’re driving, you are driving.

Are you self-driven or are you driven by others?

Of Coals and Diamonds

coaldiamondCoals are coals and diamonds are diamonds. They may have the same basic ingredient but they are far from being the same. You cannot expect coals to become diamonds nor diamonds to become coals.

Don’t get me wrong, there is no need for coals to be diamonds, they are good as they are. With their abundance, they get the machinery going and they fuel the industries.

I am reminded lately that what is true for coals and diamonds maybe true with people. Sometimes people have the romantic notion that coals should eventually graduate to becoming diamonds. I used to share that notion… Until lately.

Lately I realized that some of the coals I met are not diamonds in the rough. No amount of cutting and piling will make them look any close to being diamonds, and to push them to become one just adds to their stress because while they may be inspired by the thought of becoming diamonds, they just don’t have what it takes to become one. Some of them are just plain uninterested.

As a matter of lesson I realized I need to distinguish between a coal and a diamond in the rough… And let coals be coals.

That Displacement Experiment

I’m reminded of a science experiment inspired by Archimedes’ eureka moment that we did durindisplacementg elementary school. It’s where we learned a couple of things. One; the amount of water displaced when an object of a particular size is submerged to it determines the volume of the object; two; two objects of similar volume cannot occupy the same space at the same time and third, no matter the weight difference; objects of similar size will occupy the same amount of space.

Now, I’m not good in Science, in fact I’m not even sure I remember this experiment all correctly. However, I am very sure that pretty much the same principle applies to life. That the things you do no matter how important or unimportant occupy a finite amount of space and that no two things of similar size no matter the weight difference can occupy the same space. So I’d say be careful what you put in your life.

I often hear people wanting to be more successful, wealthier or happier or simply wanting to be better but unable to do something about it. More often, this is because their life is full of stuff that do not contribute to the achievement of their goals. There are just no space available for them to place the things that will weigh more heavily in their personal pursuits. So we hear people say, I want to earn more, but won’t sacrifice being out of their comfort zone to try out new ways to earn. Some people ask me to help them become trainers like me. I would give them the tools but they can’t find  the time to use them. They are unwilling to remove some stuff in their lives that occupy the space where these tools could have been used. They can’t take the movie marathons out, they can’t replace their love story novels with books that are relevant to building their training skills. As a Toastmaster, I would hear people say, they want to become better communicators and leaders and Toastmasters looks like their ticket to getting there. They are however, unwilling to pay the price of being there in meetings and participating in the most productive way they can. After sometime, they would quit because Toastmasters is not helping them… No, they are not helping them.

I say look at the principle behind displacement. No two objects of similar size no matter what the weight can occupy the same space at the same time. One will have to be displaced. The question is, which one are you displacing?


Your Bag of Seeds

We all have our own bags of seeds. We decide when to unpack them, plant them, grow them till they bear fruits.

Sometimes the idea alone of the  effort necessary in making that happen is so petrifying that we hesitate to let the seeds out of their bags.

Sometimes we think that laying the seed to the ground is enough that we fail to nurture it. When it fails to deliver on our expectations, we say bad seed.

But those who know the nature of seeds, those who are determined to do what it takes to get the seed to bear fruit, know that waiting is not enough.

We all have our own bags of seeds and they are called TALENTS.

They are worthless inside the bag. They won’t achieve their full potential, just laying on the ground. They have to be cultivated, nourished, fertilized and nurtured.

Ask these: How much of your seeds are out of the bag?

What have you done to make them bear fruits?

If you are not doing what it takes, it’s just right to lower your expectations.

Is reading this makes you want to work on your bag of seeds?

Are your going to take concrete steps towards achieving your full potentials?

Put some deadlines  to it will you?

And be accountable for it.