If

If I have a good voice, I’d sing my heart out and fill this world with music.

If I could dance, I’d take every chance to strut and show them what I got.

If I could draw, I’ll paint many pictures for people to appreciate.

If I’m an athlete, I’ll win me as much medals as my abilities will allow me.

If I could do the math, I’d use that talent too, to solve the complexities of this world.

All I have are words to describe what the world is saying… or not saying.
If I could use this little talent to inspire the world to use their gift to the hilt to make this a better world…

Well, here it is.

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The Hula hoops of Our Lives

I just saw a girl very effectively twirl three hula hoops around her waist. I thought she must have been bored with one, so she tried two, and then wondered if she can do three, and then she did. I also wondered how long it took her to keep three hulas up. She must have tried and failed several times until she got it. It’s fantastic what people can do if they know what they are good at and then explore how far they can go with it.

We must all have our own version of this girl’s hula hoop. I mean, we cannot be good at nothing. What is yours and how far have you gone with it? If you can sing, have you at least tried to get better at it so you can take a shot at stardom? If you think you are creative, have you exploited that creativity and let it take you as far as possible?

Don’t set your limits, push it.

What is Your Saw?

Stephen Covey said sharpen your saw.

It’s a very powerful advice that very many people know but not as many heed.

The saw of course is a metaphor for one’s abilities. sharpening it is improving it. You can’t do it if you are not sure what your abilities are. You see, this is why so many people can’t do it.

Sharpening your skills come easy if you know what it is. The bigger challenge really is discovering what it is and how it works.

So, find  your saw and then sharpen it regularly. Invest in self discovery.  Right about now is the best time to start if you haven’t started yet.

Yes, now… Don’t argue.

The Bus Passenger’s Dilemma

Passengers have it easy. They can sit back and choose whether to enjoy or complain about the ride. They don’t have to negotiate through the traffic, decide which lane to take, take an alternate route, speed up and or slowdown. There’s a price to pay though, for letting others take control of the trip for you. They dictate the pace of the journey. You cannot get to your destination faster than how fast the driver is willing to drive. You are at the mercy of the quality of that driver’s driving skills. You can complain and then maybe get off the bus if you don’t like the experience but you cannot take control of the wheel.

In life, you can choose to have it easy and depend on others to take you where you want to be. You can choose to be thankful for what you are getting or complain about the driver’s seeming disregard for what you want. But then, you can choose to take the driver’s seat of your life. Run it as fast or slow as you want to. You can go straight to where you want to be or take all the detours you see along the way. Passengers to your own bus can only complain or get off if they don’t like the ride. It’s your bus. When you’re driving, you are driving.

Are you self-driven or are you driven by others?

That Displacement Experiment

I’m reminded of a science experiment inspired by Archimedes’ eureka moment that we did durindisplacementg elementary school. It’s where we learned a couple of things. One; the amount of water displaced when an object of a particular size is submerged to it determines the volume of the object; two; two objects of similar volume cannot occupy the same space at the same time and third, no matter the weight difference; objects of similar size will occupy the same amount of space.

Now, I’m not good in Science, in fact I’m not even sure I remember this experiment all correctly. However, I am very sure that pretty much the same principle applies to life. That the things you do no matter how important or unimportant occupy a finite amount of space and that no two things of similar size no matter the weight difference can occupy the same space. So I’d say be careful what you put in your life.

I often hear people wanting to be more successful, wealthier or happier or simply wanting to be better but unable to do something about it. More often, this is because their life is full of stuff that do not contribute to the achievement of their goals. There are just no space available for them to place the things that will weigh more heavily in their personal pursuits. So we hear people say, I want to earn more, but won’t sacrifice being out of their comfort zone to try out new ways to earn. Some people ask me to help them become trainers like me. I would give them the tools but they can’t find  the time to use them. They are unwilling to remove some stuff in their lives that occupy the space where these tools could have been used. They can’t take the movie marathons out, they can’t replace their love story novels with books that are relevant to building their training skills. As a Toastmaster, I would hear people say, they want to become better communicators and leaders and Toastmasters looks like their ticket to getting there. They are however, unwilling to pay the price of being there in meetings and participating in the most productive way they can. After sometime, they would quit because Toastmasters is not helping them… No, they are not helping them.

I say look at the principle behind displacement. No two objects of similar size no matter what the weight can occupy the same space at the same time. One will have to be displaced. The question is, which one are you displacing?

Eureka?

Audience or Contestant?

Life is a spectator sport and we are all in the arena. What we do inside the inside it depends largely on everyone of us. We can choose to be spectators or we can choose to be participants. If you notice there are always more spectators or audiences in the arena compared to the participants of this life’s contest. The happiness of the spectators are dependent on the performance of the contestants while the happiness of the contestants are dependent on their own. The spectators are passively engaged, they react as things happen while the contestants are actively engaged, they make things happen.

This is not to say that the players are more happy than the audience.  I think what is important is that you are playing the role that you want, if you are happy being an audience, then so be it. You cannot be a happy audience if you are dreaming to be in the center of the arena and you are not. You cannot perform well in the center if you do not have what it takes to be there and that is the passion to engage actively in the game called life.

There are not enough magic beanstalks

Most of us probably wish it.

That we find  a handful of magic beans, throw them to the ground, grow a gigantic beanstalk and find the goose that lays the golden egg at the end. It sometimes happen. Blessings fall like manna from heaven even when the lucky ones do not wish for them.  We become green with envy and wish for our turn to have that blessing land on our  very own hands. When things do not happen the way we expect them to we feel cheated. We refuse to take action and still wait for our magic bean entitlement…

Well it might or it might not happen, hence it is useless to just wait and then feel sore in the end. There’s not enough magic beans. You have to find your goose some other way.